I subscribe to a newsletter from the Uriel Heals website and this bit (excerpted below) was in yesterday's offering. I am slowly changing my perspective to seeing that we choose those who are in our lives for the lessons we can learn from them. As I was reading this entry by one of my favorite bloggers, Angry Black Bitch, I pondered what lessons we learn specifically from our mothers. I will write more about this a bit later. For now, though, here's some food for thought.

There is a generation of lightworkers, that I also belong to, that has had a difficult history with their mother. This history includes a wide range of experiences that do not give us that 'warm, fuzzy' feeling when we remember our experiences with our mother. When we look at these experiences from an emotional perspective, they can make us sad and angry. But if we look at them from a spiritual perspective, our mother is the person who agreed to bring us into the world and to introduce us to our lessons.

I do not wish to underestimate the physical and emotional damage that may have been inflicted in some family relationships. Within a spiritual context, however, we choose our lives and the parents who will best prepare us to learn what we need to in this lifetime. Even after we have learned the lessons, we can have difficulty resolving our feelings about our experiences, especially our frustration at our inability to express them to those who wounded us . But there is one way to resolve this dilemma.

At some point, we can choose to stop seeing our mother from our childhood perspective, within the context of a 'mother' and everything that our society has taught us that this should mean. Then we can see her as a person, as someone who brought us into the world, as part of our soul group and someone with whom we have shared many lifetimes. In this lifetime she may not have been gentle, kind, supportive and caring-indeed, she may have been just the opposite. But when we can see her from a different perspective and view our experience with her as part of our chosen life experience, we can reconcile our feelings and honor her spirit for the part that she played in our lessons.